Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day.
It’s about the choice to show up and be real.
The choice to be honest.
The choice to let our true selves be seen.
-Dr. Brene Brown
Sometimes our greatest strengths can be our greatest weaknesses.
Would you agree?
I spend a great deal of time talking. Sometimes from a platform. Sometimes in my quiet counseling room. Sometimes on the phone. Sometimes in a parking lot.
Talking is what I do. I like to think it helps others. As I listen in-between the lines of their words, it is my earnest hope that I can help take the scattered pieces of a broken puzzle and somehow offer guidance on how to put them all back where they belong.
But to every strength, there is a tendency for weakness. Meaning, I can talk too much. Say something that shouldn’t be said. Sometimes we need to give others space to figure things out for themselves. And then, sometimes, I need to listen to my own words and take my own advice.
Dr. Brene Brown says it this way, “I will talk to myself the same way I talk to the people I love.”
I am my own worst critic.
Over the holidays, a very loud one-liner came through a difficult conversation. I was exhausted from cooking and cleaning and shopping and hostessing and etc. etc. etc…you know the drill. And when we are exhausted, it seems the adversary, who I unaffectionately call Red Tail, loves to hit us hard. Throw a strong left punch into our tired gut. Knock us down and out.
The very loud one-liner that tries to knock me out exists of four little words, “You are never enough.” Your best isn’t best enough. You can do better. Just try harder.
I went to bed defeated. Beating myself up.
But when the sun rose, I rose. Much like a prize-fighter, I felt strength rising. I might have even heard the theme to Rocky playing in my head.
After my shower, I had a thought.
Girl, it’s time to say goodbye to that lie,
Because, you are
And take that one step further. When you aren’t enough,
God is more than enough.
Is there a lying one-liner that keeps you in a state of defeat?
Girl (or guy), it’s time to say goodbye to that lie and hello to the Truth.
My little “mirror-cise” only took a few minutes, but boy, the visual of seeing the lie slowly disappear, was worth it.
Goodbye lies, goodbye.
Release your hold on me, now.
Hello Truth, hello!