“There are many faces of self-preservation when life feels unsafe–behaviors we use as a shield to protect ourselves from pain. You might blame someone else, thinking of all the ways the other person could be different so that you might feel okay. You could anesthetize your pain by binging on pleasures that numb but do not satisfy such as television, food, or online shopping, only to confront the same pain when the credits roll, the plate is scraped clear, or the bill comes. Or maybe you cope with your pain by becoming your own merciless critic, refusing to see, let alone name, anything good in yourself.”

Nicole Zaskowski, “What If It’s Wonderful: Release Your Fears, Choose Joy, Find the Courage to Celebrate

Reimagining Our What-If Questions

The moment Nicole popped on to our ZOOM meeting room, I found myself immediately connected to her wise heart.

Was it her quiet presence?

Was it her demure smile?

Or, was it her radiant heart and mind, ready to tell her story. A story I knew would touch our hearts.

Meet Nicole

When God has been your faithful anchor in the storm, does joy then leave you unmoored? Nicole reminds us that we can stay tethered to the hope of Christ in seasons of celebration, because even joyful days hold the learning, growth, and intimate encounters with Jesus that our hearts crave.


Listen here: Reimagining What-If Questions, Part 1

Listen here: Reimagining What-If Questions, Part 2

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